FAQs
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For rituals and ceremonies, the rates are set by a professional organization I am a part of as an ordained Unitarian Universalist minister, the Unitarian Universalist Ministers Association. They take into account geography, cost of living, and what would be an ethical amount to charge. For my embroidery work, everything is handsewn, hand stitched, and that takes time. I typically factor in size of piece, amount of stitching, and the time it will take me to design the layout. My work is of high quality and comes from old traditions, making it more expensive than if a machine was embroidering for me. I also factor in the identities of my clients, recognizing that many of us in the queer community and in historically marginalized communities are underemployed, underpaid, and under valued. I do my best to keep my work accessible to the folks who need it.
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and Scottish practices. This ritual binds the hands of one person to another for a period of time- could be a year, could be a lifetime. And this practice grew out of the desire for ritual led by the people, rather than being solely led by a priest. Words in these rituals can be about committing the works of your hands to one another, what intentions you hold in your hands for a romantic relationship, or even what your vows will be to one another. Typically, this ritual is for romantic partners, but can be for all kinds of relationships that deserve an intentional blessing.
To learn more, here are some good resources:
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As a queer person myself, I want to be sure marriage is as accessible, welcoming, and fitting for queer people as it can be. Queer people are my spiritual priority. For too many years and into the present day, the right to marry for queer people has been denied to us by the state. As a heterosexual couple, your support of my ministry to queer people helps to restore our rights which have too long been invisibilized and systemically denied. Thank you for helping to keep my weddings accessible to the queer community.
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